Why is it that ppl are afraid to be alone? Is it really that bad that u are on ur own? I mean.... I am single... but I don't think I am alone nor am I lonely. Or... am I just kidding myself??

I spoke with my cousin this evening. She is in the process of a divorce at the moment. One of the reason she took this long to end this marriage was the fear of being alone. (Although this marriage is nothing that u can call a marriage. It has no communications, no emotions and no trust.) I told her she has to be prepared to be single again. She has to learn to be on her own and that not to rush into any relationship soon after. I highlighted to her that from history... she has been into a relationship one after another without a break. Basically she needs a MAN!

I told her she needs to be independent and not expect ppl to pick her up everytime she falls. Of course its great to have someone does that to u BUT she need to learn how to pick herself up.

This is my policy. Everyone is an individual. When you are into a relationship, its TWO individual person being together. NOT two people becoming ONE! cheh! So basically you will ALWAYS be YOU... bringing something of you into someone else's life and vice versa.

Soooo... even if you are into a relationship or not... you are not lost. You don't need another person to complete you. For me... my partner compliment me... not complete me.